So about a week ago, my friend - we'll call him Tommy Traddles - emails me and says something like, "Hey, why no Jane lately?". And I say, "Because I have school work to do and I can't write Jane until it's done." And he says, "Screw school work. Just subscribe to the 10-year grad school plan like I did." And I say, "You're an idiot. And if you want to read Jane so bad, why don't you effin' write it." And he says, "Ok...I will".
And I thought, "Wow, that was easy. Sucker!"
I also figure that, hey, even Johnny Carson let Joan Rivers fill in once in awhile.
So today Tommy is providing his male counterpoint to my Valentine's Day post. I should tell you that Tommy and I have known each other since we were kids. He has pictures of me in bat-winged shirts with rainbows plastered across the front and I have pictures of him sporting Jon Cryer hair. He is also much more worldly than I, and can tell you all of the best places to go in Europe to drink and/or watch tranny prostitutes. I keep him around as a friend for these reason specifically.
So, without further ado...here's Joan, er, I mean, Tommy...
After reading Jane's anti-Valentine's Day tirade, I realized that I could probably offer some advice that may help a few of you next year. For the record, I've never been much of a fan of the holiday, nor have I ever been very good at relationships, although I think I may have stumbled on three key ideas that have helped me out during this tough season.
(1) The first is the issue with settling. We seem to be too picky when choosing someone to spend the day with. Around mid-January, you should really lower your standards. Issues that are typically show-stoppers, like a curable STD, chronic halitosis, chronic unemployment, or serious psychological issues should be overlooked at the start of the new year. If the goal is to get some free candy, flowers, and not spend the evening with your cats on February 14th, start looking for next year's special person in new places. Mr. Right may just be standing on the corner with the "Will Work for Food" sign you pass by every morning on the way to work. On the 15th, stop returning calls and move.
(2) The second issue is with communication. I have always subscribed to the Homer Simpson theory that the problem with relationships is communication - too much communication. I recently started dating someone who doesn't speak my language. Adding to the magic is the fact that I don't speak hers'. Before you accuse me of being shallow and only concerned with her looks, let me explain that she does have an ass you can bounce quarters on.
Never mind, that was the shallow part.
The non-shallow part is that I am making an honest attempt to learn her language which really works out well because I do have to listen intently and nod my head every few minutes while I pretend to understand. From a relationship perspective, she could have serious mental health issues, an irritating personality, or one of the other countless issues people have that cause relationships to end. I just don't know about any of them, and it is wonderful. As far as Valentine's Day is concerned, I would highly recommend attending English as a Second Language classes at the start of the New Year to help find that special someone.
(3) The third issue is phoning it in. There is really nothing wrong with half-assing something. I have never been a big fan of the holiday. Blah, blah, blah crass commercialization, etc., but in reality I am too lazy to actually but much effort into making any relationship work...however, I did learn at an early age that a minimum effort on the 14th typically results in some sexual reward.
I hope my three suggestions have helped some of you develop a game plan to make next year's Valentine's less painful.
I'll see you at the soup kitchen around January 2012.
Thanks TT. I'm inherently lazy and I'm sure all four of my readers would love to hear more of your sage advice.
I'm thinking regular punt.